Post by Icarus on Mar 26, 2008 8:17:28 GMT -5
I got this from a newsletter that I apparently signed up for at some point. You can sign up too by clicking on this link:
www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/
How To Impress Anyone You Meet
by Peter Murphy
Hi
If you are reading this, you are looking for ways
to make new friends, get along with work colleagues
better, maybe wanting to make your first meeting with
that someone special really lead to something more.
There could be many reasons for you to turn on the
most pleasing aspects of your personality.
First impressions really do count but how many times
have you met someone who you didn´t expect to like,
or thought gosh that person looks geeky or odd yet
having spoken to them your perception of them
completely changes in a short time?
Well, if you felt drawn to them, or felt like talking
to them longer than expected, or found yourself
wanting to hear what they were going to say next...
that person was being charming.
What is the definition of charm, to be charmed or be
charming? To charm is to appeal, attract interest,
please or stimulate. In this article, when I talk about
how to charm, it will be with all of the above in mind.
I will give you pointers on how to appeal to people,
how to arouse and sustain interest.
If you can do this people will want to see you again,
they will seek out your company, and they will look
forward to being in your company again.
Let´s look at what other people want. When you
understand this you know what is expected and
wanted from you. People you meet want to be pleased.
This can be achieved using the seven pointers below.
Once you are armed with these you are ready to become
the person that people want to be around and see again.
They will seek you out in a party or group and seek your
company.
The 7 Elements of Charm :
1. Arm yourself with knowledge
A knowledge of current affairs is useful. You could
speak to work colleagues, bosses at a gathering or on
a date. Not too much to become boring, but enough to
start a conversation, join in, or just sustain chatting.
Knowledge can also be gained of the meeting place, the
office, the drinks at the bar, and the food at the
restaurant. This information lets you know how to
dress for the venue.
Develop knowledge of other things that people may be
interested in such as hobbies, films, books, can help
continue or sustain conversations. Remember
the 70/30 rule below of listening and talking.
2. Confidence
Confidence is gained by preparation. A key element is
to ensure you feel comfortable with what you are wearing.
But dress appropriately for your surroundings, if you are
not sure visit the venue beforehand to see what the rule
is.
Aim to be firm and take control as this shows quiet
strength which people are attracted to.
3. Sincerity
Mean what you say, be genuine and show interest because you
want to hear what the other is saying. A lack of sincerity
will be noticed and creates an unfavorable response in the
other person. In fact, insincerity is insulting so avoid
it at all costs.
4. Eye contact
Not so piercing, that it makes the other person uncomfortable,
but meet their eyes, when you talk to them. Maintain eye
contact throughout the conversation and look away at intervals
to keep the rapport friendly and comfortable.
5. Offer Of comfort
Thoughtfulness - offer the other person a drink, a seat or to
open or close a window. It makes the other person feel valued,
and important. Simple acts of kindness are very much
appreciated especially when you meet people in an
unfamiliar environment.
6. Smile with the eyes
Sometimes when people smile it looks false, when the smile
does not reach the muscles around the eyes. So smile with
the eyes, this shows a genuine smile. You look friendlier
and it gets a good response from the other person.
7. Listening and responding
Aim for around 70% listening and 30% talking time. Listening
shows you are interested in what the other person has to say
and want to get to know them better. Listen and respond
appropriately. If talking to a man 50/50 is a good ratio.
Being witty is good but dry humor could be dangerous. And
of course, getting a laugh is always good.
www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/
How To Impress Anyone You Meet
by Peter Murphy
Hi
If you are reading this, you are looking for ways
to make new friends, get along with work colleagues
better, maybe wanting to make your first meeting with
that someone special really lead to something more.
There could be many reasons for you to turn on the
most pleasing aspects of your personality.
First impressions really do count but how many times
have you met someone who you didn´t expect to like,
or thought gosh that person looks geeky or odd yet
having spoken to them your perception of them
completely changes in a short time?
Well, if you felt drawn to them, or felt like talking
to them longer than expected, or found yourself
wanting to hear what they were going to say next...
that person was being charming.
What is the definition of charm, to be charmed or be
charming? To charm is to appeal, attract interest,
please or stimulate. In this article, when I talk about
how to charm, it will be with all of the above in mind.
I will give you pointers on how to appeal to people,
how to arouse and sustain interest.
If you can do this people will want to see you again,
they will seek out your company, and they will look
forward to being in your company again.
Let´s look at what other people want. When you
understand this you know what is expected and
wanted from you. People you meet want to be pleased.
This can be achieved using the seven pointers below.
Once you are armed with these you are ready to become
the person that people want to be around and see again.
They will seek you out in a party or group and seek your
company.
The 7 Elements of Charm :
1. Arm yourself with knowledge
A knowledge of current affairs is useful. You could
speak to work colleagues, bosses at a gathering or on
a date. Not too much to become boring, but enough to
start a conversation, join in, or just sustain chatting.
Knowledge can also be gained of the meeting place, the
office, the drinks at the bar, and the food at the
restaurant. This information lets you know how to
dress for the venue.
Develop knowledge of other things that people may be
interested in such as hobbies, films, books, can help
continue or sustain conversations. Remember
the 70/30 rule below of listening and talking.
2. Confidence
Confidence is gained by preparation. A key element is
to ensure you feel comfortable with what you are wearing.
But dress appropriately for your surroundings, if you are
not sure visit the venue beforehand to see what the rule
is.
Aim to be firm and take control as this shows quiet
strength which people are attracted to.
3. Sincerity
Mean what you say, be genuine and show interest because you
want to hear what the other is saying. A lack of sincerity
will be noticed and creates an unfavorable response in the
other person. In fact, insincerity is insulting so avoid
it at all costs.
4. Eye contact
Not so piercing, that it makes the other person uncomfortable,
but meet their eyes, when you talk to them. Maintain eye
contact throughout the conversation and look away at intervals
to keep the rapport friendly and comfortable.
5. Offer Of comfort
Thoughtfulness - offer the other person a drink, a seat or to
open or close a window. It makes the other person feel valued,
and important. Simple acts of kindness are very much
appreciated especially when you meet people in an
unfamiliar environment.
6. Smile with the eyes
Sometimes when people smile it looks false, when the smile
does not reach the muscles around the eyes. So smile with
the eyes, this shows a genuine smile. You look friendlier
and it gets a good response from the other person.
7. Listening and responding
Aim for around 70% listening and 30% talking time. Listening
shows you are interested in what the other person has to say
and want to get to know them better. Listen and respond
appropriately. If talking to a man 50/50 is a good ratio.
Being witty is good but dry humor could be dangerous. And
of course, getting a laugh is always good.