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Post by Hachelen on Feb 1, 2007 18:25:12 GMT -5
Jinsei said:
I guess I'm the opposite. I love having my children and my childhood wasn't all that bad... we were spoiled, but disciplined. Right now, I've got the two kids, she wants at least one more, but I'm kind of torn between the decision of stopping at the two or just continuing on for a few more.
Oh yeah, Wookiepedia says that Morichro can be used either personally or on another person.
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Post by Hachelen on Feb 1, 2007 18:25:50 GMT -5
Hecate said:
Draconis wrote: I may never have children. I grew up without my mother and it was a positive so if I had a child I wouldn't want them to be influenced by a mother. It is to easy to be spoiled or dependent on the parent.
If my mother and Father had stayed together than I would be a horrible person. You would have to meet my mother to really understand. My step-mother negatively influenced my siblings in many ways: no discipline, manners, respect, and they were also very spoiled. These are just a few things I really wouldn't chance for my kid because there are to many ways to be effected negatively by a mother.( no offense to any mothers, just speaking from personal experience) Please remember that I don't trust anyone,family, friends or otherwise.
Draconis, of course it's your right to make whatever choices you wish, but I have a thought for you. No two people are alike. No two mothers make the same mistakes as another. In this world there are hateful cruel people and those who are filled to overflowing with love and an ability to express it, and everythging in between.
What a shame it would be if you based your entire life and all your judgements upon the actions of one flawed human, for then she still has power over you, you are restricting yourself to a lifetime of the same, and missing out on so much potential.
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Post by Hachelen on Feb 1, 2007 18:26:21 GMT -5
Draconis said:
What I mean is that I dare not take the chance because there are far to many people like the ones I have mentioned.
Love can also do harm: My step mothers love for my siblings blinds her to the fact that they are brats. If my father was not blinded by his love for my step mother he would trust me like he used to, respect me, but what she says is truth to him so I have lost the respect and trust I have earned. No one should ever be trusted, not completely if at all.
I am not the only one in the family that turned out better for lack of a mother, my cousin would be abused or in a foster home by now had his mother stayed.
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Post by Hachelen on Feb 1, 2007 18:26:45 GMT -5
Icarus said:
Draconis,
What you say is true. However, I think that you fail to see that there are just as many people out there that are trustworthy, loving, and even balanced in their emotions and the expression of those emotions. You sound alot like I used to sound. That is not a put-down or anything like that. You seriously sound just like I did a while back.
One day, someone will come along and you will be able to trust them. There will be pain too, but if you let yourself open up, you will be able to discover the joys and beauty of all of life, not just a tiny fraction of it. To limit one's chances of understanding the complexities of the self is a choice that too many people choose.
It is a shame. People will claim that you can trust them, most of the time, it is a lie, but there are a few out there that you can take their word for it.
Another thing to consider is the intent behind someone's actions. People do not always want to hurt someone else, but their actions do anyway. That's why it is necessary to be honest and open with people. Then you have the ability to ask why someone did something that you perceived to be an attack on yourself.
Just out of nosiness, how old are you? Feel free to tell me to shut up now, but I was wanting to know just for a comparison of my own life. (Don't tell me that you shouldn't compare yourself to others, you Jedi folks out there.) Or, you can PM me if you want to. Like I said, I am just wanting to see if this way of thinking is something that occurs at certain ages, for the most part, or if it is an individual thing.
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Post by Hachelen on Feb 1, 2007 18:27:34 GMT -5
Draconis said:
If you tell me your age( PM or here) then I'll PM you.
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Post by Hachelen on Feb 1, 2007 18:28:04 GMT -5
Icarus said:
Draconis wrote: If you tell me your age( PM or here) then I'll PM you.
A little "tit-for-tat"? ok. I'm 29.
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