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Post by Adona Mara on Feb 7, 2007 14:55:38 GMT -5
Originally posted by Icarus
A few days ago, we were talking to our daughter about her choice of friends. Now, it's real easy to point out how a person can be having negative effects on someone else, but it is not always easy to see how someone may be affecting yourself. So, this got me to thinking...
Why do we choose the friends that we do?
What is it about friendships that we need?
Why are the most "negative" of friendships the most fun? (As in, how come the troublemakers are so much fun to be around?)
Why do we seek out like-minded individuals, when in theory, it would be boring?
Why do we have some friendships that last ages, when others last only a few days, or so?
Why, as an act of rebellion, do we associate with certain people?
Do you think that you put yourself first in a friendship, or do you truly strive to think of the other person first?
How do you see your best friend (s)?
How did you end up being friends with that person?
Are you surprised that the friendship has lasted this long?
How do friendships affect your life on a daily basis?
Do you feel a "spiritual" connection to your friends, or is it only a source of entertainment and companionship?
What is the worst trouble that you have ever gotten into because of a friend?
What lengths would you go to to help a friend in need?
See, these types of questions seem trivial, but in reality, if we do not ask ourselves these things, then we are just going along, happily ignoring that which may be affecting us in a negative way. I'd hate to think that friendships were just bargains on psychic energy intake.
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Post by Adona Mara on Feb 7, 2007 15:06:08 GMT -5
Originally posted by Hecate
What is it about friendships that we need?
I can only speak for me. I need few friends, but the ones I have are very deep friends. People who accept and understand me, who I can be myself with and vice verse. I don't need them, but they enhance my life and hopefully I do the same for them.
Why are the most "negative" of friendships the most fun? (As in, how come the troublemakers are so much fun to be around?)
I've never found this.
Why do we seek out like-minded individuals, when in theory, it would be boring?
It's far from boring. I enjoy being with the similarly minded because then theres a vague chance they might get what I'm on about, and that we can share and grow together.
Why do we have some friendships that last ages, when others last only a few days, or so?
Everything in life has a lifespan. As long as we're truly honouring that and not running away all is well. Each friendship is like a journey, and when the journey together is over you go on separate paths.
Why, as an act of rebellion, do we associate with certain people?
I don't. Who is there to rebel agianst?
Do you think that you put yourself first in a friendship, or do you truly strive to think of the other person first?
A good and true friendship is based on unconditional love. That would make both people equally important.
How do you see your best friend (s)? How did you end up being friends with that person?
Because the universe brought us together.
Are you surprised that the friendship has lasted this long?
Which ones? And no, nothing surprises me about human interaction any more.
How do friendships affect your life on a daily basis?
That varies. Are you including relationships in this or platoinic friendships only? My answer would be different depending.
Do you feel a "spiritual" connection to your friends, or is it only a source of entertainment and companionship?
Always.
What is the worst trouble that you have ever gotten into because of a friend?
I get myself into trouble, no one else can do it for me.
What lengths would you go to to help a friend in need?
It would depend on the circumstances.
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Define negative. Don't you think anything can be used constructively?
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Post by Adona Mara on Feb 7, 2007 15:28:41 GMT -5
Originally posted by Icarus
Why do we choose the friends that we do?
Hecate said: Quote:
That's the best answer anyone could come up with. I would also add that true friends bring out the parts of us that we keep hidden from the rest of the world and accept those parts as just "who we are."
What is it about friendships that we need?
I used to believe that friendships were unneeded. Today, I would have to say that they may not be needed, but I enjoy them. So, while I do not have to have them, I really do not want to let them go.
Why are the most "negative" of friendships the most fun? (As in, how come the troublemakers are so much fun to be around?) Ok, Hecate, I probably should have mentioned that I was thinking about children on these types of questions. Flowing with this train of thought, I was thinking that it is because we "break our bonds" when we are with these people and so, actually, learn more about who we are-as long as we are using free will in our decisions with these people.
Why do we seek out like-minded individuals, when in theory, it would be boring?
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Yes, but those that are different help us to explore new oppurtunities and grow. But, yeah, I see what you mean, and even agree.
Why do we have some friendships that last ages, when others last only a few days, or so?
Someone once told me that when someone has expired in their usefulness to your life, then they are to leave.... now, that sounds mean, but in a way, they are right. Although, I wouldn't think of making them leave, unless they were dangerous in some way. It just seems that time and situation have a way of parting the ways between friends.
Why, as an act of rebellion, do we associate with certain people? This was also part of that childhood thing. (see above)
Do you think that you put yourself first in a friendship, or do you truly strive to think of the other person first? I would have to say that I try to think of the other person first, yes. I do not always end up acting like that, and I know at times, I seem arrogant and self-absorbed, but I honestly do try to think of others first and put their interests before my own.
How do you see your best friend (s)? All of them: The light of day and the magick of the night. They are beauty, wisdom, and joy all wrapped into small units of matter. They are my confidants, my links, and my parallels. They are my mentors, my heroes, my inspiration. They are my dreams, my hopes, and my happiness. Strangely enough, as I was typing that out, "They are my obligation" popped into my head.
How did you end up being friends with that person? Those are all boring stories.
Are you surprised that the friendship has lasted this long? I'm surprised when any relationship lasts any time at all.
How do friendships affect your life on a daily basis? I'm not sure. Skip.
Do you feel a "spiritual" connection to your friends, or is it only a source of entertainment and companionship?
Spiritual connection, always..... though, they may not feel that way about me. It doesn't matter.
What is the worst trouble that you have ever gotten into because of a friend?
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Yes, very true, but I should have phrased the question something like::::::::: what is the greatest sacrifice that you have made for a friend, using your own free will to do so?
What lengths would you go to to help a friend in need? Anything and everything that I could, as long as I couldn't see anything bad coming from my actions.
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Negative- The repetitive actions of two or more people, with no growth occurring between them, no matter how many times they end up in circumstances involving one another.
and,
Everything can be constructive in one way or another.
How do friendships affect your life on a daily basis?
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Sorry, just plain friendships, no romance, or frills, or anything like that-just plain old friendships.
Btw, thank you for answering those.
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