Post by Adona Mara on Feb 7, 2007 12:59:25 GMT -5
Originally posted by Icarus
I've been wondering about something here.
As some of you know, I recently went on the warpath against someone at another place because they insulted a friend of mine. Well, that's really beside the point.
Here is what I am wondering about: Why do people feel it necessary to defend the "honor" of a friend or loved one? I mean, for the most part, most people can do this well enough on their own. So, why do we get so inflamed about it and jump in the middle of it all when it really doesn't even pertain to us? Why can't we just leave well enough alone? This is especially the case, I suppose, when the friend is absent from the situation. Do we really think that we have to do this-defend those that we care about- from words?
Anyway, I have been thinking on this and have discovered that I am not as detached as I should be. I should be able to just let it all go and live and let live. But, I can't just do that. If I see/hear someone I care for getting insulted/flamed/accused of something, then I physically hurt inside.
Hecate and I had talked about how certain chakras will vibrate with certain people. Well, when this happened, my root chakra was on fire. I thought that my solar plexus was going to jump right out of my skin. Now, there was no energy in the "higher" chakras, so I have to see this as a primordial instinct of some sort.
My best friend would probably say that it's my totem energy coming out. This is definetly possible. It did feel very "wolf-like."
I guess that what it really comes down to is that I know the goodness, beauty, and absolutely wonderful natures of those that I love. It angers me to think that someone would try to cover that light up with their own flavor of shadow.
So, how do you overcome this feeling? How do you grow past this feeling of over-protectiveness?
I have to wonder if I am this way because I have always "fought my own battles" and never had someone stand up for me like I tend to want to do with other people. For some reason, my friends thought I could handle it myself. At least that is what they told me... well, that's just it though. Every time this has happened, I have known that those involved could handle it themselves, but I didn't want them having to fight their battle alone. This is also interfering with their free will, and imposing my choices on them...
See......... I've been thinking about this too much...........
So, what do you all think? Is this something that can be overcome? And, if it is overcome, do you lose your compassion, your love for your friends, and just become indifferent?
I've been wondering about something here.
As some of you know, I recently went on the warpath against someone at another place because they insulted a friend of mine. Well, that's really beside the point.
Here is what I am wondering about: Why do people feel it necessary to defend the "honor" of a friend or loved one? I mean, for the most part, most people can do this well enough on their own. So, why do we get so inflamed about it and jump in the middle of it all when it really doesn't even pertain to us? Why can't we just leave well enough alone? This is especially the case, I suppose, when the friend is absent from the situation. Do we really think that we have to do this-defend those that we care about- from words?
Anyway, I have been thinking on this and have discovered that I am not as detached as I should be. I should be able to just let it all go and live and let live. But, I can't just do that. If I see/hear someone I care for getting insulted/flamed/accused of something, then I physically hurt inside.
Hecate and I had talked about how certain chakras will vibrate with certain people. Well, when this happened, my root chakra was on fire. I thought that my solar plexus was going to jump right out of my skin. Now, there was no energy in the "higher" chakras, so I have to see this as a primordial instinct of some sort.
My best friend would probably say that it's my totem energy coming out. This is definetly possible. It did feel very "wolf-like."
I guess that what it really comes down to is that I know the goodness, beauty, and absolutely wonderful natures of those that I love. It angers me to think that someone would try to cover that light up with their own flavor of shadow.
So, how do you overcome this feeling? How do you grow past this feeling of over-protectiveness?
I have to wonder if I am this way because I have always "fought my own battles" and never had someone stand up for me like I tend to want to do with other people. For some reason, my friends thought I could handle it myself. At least that is what they told me... well, that's just it though. Every time this has happened, I have known that those involved could handle it themselves, but I didn't want them having to fight their battle alone. This is also interfering with their free will, and imposing my choices on them...
See......... I've been thinking about this too much...........
So, what do you all think? Is this something that can be overcome? And, if it is overcome, do you lose your compassion, your love for your friends, and just become indifferent?