Talon Sky
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Choices
Aug 18, 2008 21:47:27 GMT -5
Post by Talon Sky on Aug 18, 2008 21:47:27 GMT -5
Why in life are we faced with impossible choices? A choice where there is no right answer, and no matter what we do we destroy a life? Choices between what we want, and what's right? Having to choose between shattering a heart one way, or shattering it another? How do you handle a situation like, where I said, there is no right answer?
And before you start wondering about me IRL, I'm fine. This was just a question that's been on my mind for a few days.
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Icarus
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Aug 19, 2008 7:48:51 GMT -5
Post by Icarus on Aug 19, 2008 7:48:51 GMT -5
Well, I think that to answer that question, we have to throw away our attachment to the outcome and then our own ego. Because I know what you're saying, sometimes, both choices are bad. But, we do not always know how the choices will work out in the long run. For instance, if we "break someone's heart," and leave a relationship, we will both feel hurt for a time, but in the long run, both people could go on to find their true love and live complete and happy lives. It really is about control and our attachment to the outcome. We cannot foresee all that is to come, and only have our limited perspective of the present circumstances. We can do our best to make right choices, but in the end, we never really know. We can only base our decisions on what "feels" right, or what we know to be right at that moment. Sometimes it hurts. Sometimes it doesn't. But we never really know what is going to happen. It is only when we start dwelling on the what-ifs and the possible outcomes that we start messing up. If we act with love, compassion, and mindfulness, while staying true to ourselves and the Will of God (or the Force, whichever you prefer), then things will work out the way they are supposed to, and we have to have faith in that.
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Aug 19, 2008 12:17:52 GMT -5
Post by Adona Mara on Aug 19, 2008 12:17:52 GMT -5
To add to Icarus' good words, let me add, when in doubt, choose kindness. Sometimes it can be hard to see what is the kindest thing to do. When making a decision for yourself, ask what choice would have the kindest (or, at least, the least unkind) effect on those around you. When making a decision for or about someone else, remember that it's not about you. Choose what is best for that person. Sometimes it seems unkind in the short term, but in the long run it will work out for the best. Ask any kid whose "mean parent" sent them to bed early, or didn't let them get the latest gizmo, or any other scenario. It may not seem the kindest thing at the time, but, in the long term it works out. And don't mind the nay-sayers. If it's your decision, make it and be comfortable with that. There will always be people who try to guilt you, and/or make you second guess yourself. Shut it out, and trust yourself.
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Aug 21, 2008 23:00:55 GMT -5
Post by Jinsei on Aug 21, 2008 23:00:55 GMT -5
Life is ultimately just a coin toss. Heads you go one way, tails you go the other. Fortunately, we have that thing called "free will" and can make the decision of which way to go without relying solely on the call of the coin. Not all situations have a good outcome, no matter which way you choose.
There's a situation where they tend to ask, "Could you kill one child to save a million people?" and most people choose one way or the other. If they answer "No." then a second question is posed, "What if the child would grow up to be Hitler?" If they answer "Yes." then the second question is, "What if the child would grow up to be Jesus?"
See, we can only go with the information we know and make the best judgement. No matter which answer you choose, someone may die in that situation, but which do you choose, one or a million? Ultimately, which is kinder, especially when you learn of that child's possible future as opposed to the unknown million who may live or die?
Again, someone would die, but those are the only two options you're given at the time. I would hope that for most people the simple answer of "Yes" or "No" would be a hard one to settle on.
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